A day in the life of an Amani Spa and Wellness Director / working mom!
Pretty Nkosi, age 29, Director of Amani Spa & Wellness, discusses how she balances her working life with being a great Mom.
My average day…
I wake up at 04:45 and usually start with making sure that my son’s lunch is packed, and my daughter’s bottles are prepped, then I sort out breakfast and get the kids ready for school. The chaos begins, trying to make sure everyone gets to where they need to be on time.
Once I get to the office, the first thing I do is put the kettle on. I need that first cup of strong coffee to kickstart the working day.
After work, I pick up the kids, make sure that the house is still standing all the while trying to figure out what to have for dinner. It’s chaos again as I cook dinner and prepare the kids for the next day, do bath time, put the next day’s clothes out, tidy up and put the kids to sleep.
It’s important to stay connected with your partner so every night we make time for a catchup over a glass of wine to help us unwind.
How I balance being a Director at Amani Spa and Wellness with being a Mother…
This is something that can be a struggle for me; the trick is to not be a Mom while being a Director at work, and not to be a Director while being a Mom at home. It’s very easy to let the lines blur. Whenever I feel them starting to cross over, I stop, take a moment to remind myself where I am and what I am doing, and I try again. Sometimes I forget that it’s okay to make mistakes (especially for me as I am an utter perfectionist), the important thing is that you learn from those mistakes and improve each day.
How I prioritise Wellness….
Sometimes I feel as though “me-time” went out the window a long time ago, but I still manage to sneak in a Massage and a Pedicure here and there each month (as well as a glass of wine from time to time). It’s important to have your own stress relief and knowing the quality and luxury that Amani Spa & Wellness offers, I sometimes just can’t help myself!
My kids are my Wellness; running around after them keeps me active and we always make it fun. The most important thing for me though, is taking five minutes every hour to close my eyes and breathe, feeling grateful for my surroundings.
My biggest support…
My Mom is, by far, my biggest support structure. She makes being a Mom easier. Sometimes she offers to take the kids for the weekend, or even during the week, just to give me time to bring myself towards myself. It can all get a bit much sometimes, no one prepares you for the constant worry you have, wondering if your kids will be all right while you’re at work. She makes us all so happy and makes me appreciate our time together that much more. I can’t help but sit and just stare at my family sometimes, thinking, “Hey, we are doing okay!”
My challenges when trying to balance life and work…
My biggest challenge at work is learning to not sweat the small stuff; it can be difficult to let go and delegate.
At home, my biggest challenge is not always being there mentally and emotionally with my little ones.
It’s inevitable to have had a hectic day at work sometimes. I just have to remind myself that I’m about to start another shift that requires 100% of me, and just like at work, I need to give 100% at home.
It’s important to give myself time to understand that I’m not perfect but I try my best to always stay present in the moment, to keep a smile on my face and have an attitude that is ready to learn.
My three ‘must-haves’ to manage a busy life…
- My calendar, setting reminders to make sure I don’t forget anything important.
- My family (my Mom and Husband). Without my family I would never be able to manage half the things I do.
- Google! I Google everything that I don’t have the answers to.
Advice for other new Moms who are about to go back to work…
Take a few days, the week before you go back to work, to learn what your baby’s new routine will be without you. If you’re planning on getting a nanny, let them take full control for those days. If it’s a creche, drop your baby off for half a day and go have a nice, hot cup of coffee.
Stay calm and breathe. When the day comes to go back to work, it’s okay to cry and get emotional but stressing about it will just make things that much harder for you and the rest of your family. You just have to have faith that your baby will be in good hands.
Make the most of your time at work, after all, your babies are the reason why you’re there!
To all the mom’s out there, remember; you are doing a great job! We don’t hear this very often but when we do, it means the world to us.
There’s a great blog that I read recently on Life Hack. “13 Ways Working Moms Can Balance Work and Family (And Be Happy)”, Katie Lemons. She gave me some great pointers:
- Let go of the mom guilt
- Use time saving hacks
- Find childcare providers that you trust
- Maintain open communication with your manager
- Reduce distractions and time wasters
- Reconnect with your partner
- Create special and meaningful family activities
- Stay organized using calendars and lists, plan ahead
- Share the housework
- Say yes to less
- Lower your expectations
- Make time for me time
- Connect with other working moms